Become Skillful At Inner-Mothering With These 5 Practices for Deep Self Nourishment
I’m currently in a season of my life where I’m entertaining the idea of motherhood. Having worked with many women around feminine hormonal balance and fertility, I know the importance for mama and baby around consciously preparing the body and mind to better conceive and carry a healthy baby to term. As a trained Nutrition Therapist I nourish my body well, and yet, with this new chapter, I realize there are some small changes that I could make to further support my body.
With busy creative days, I often find myself subsisting on bulletproof coffee throughout the morning hours. And while I know I’m not alone in this trendy practice, I also know it’s not exactly ideal for creating an optimal inner ecosystem for balanced hormones. The truth is, even though I know this practice leaves me feeling ungrounded and anxious at times, it still hasn’t been particularly easy for me to shift. I find that creamy coffee so delicious in the morning, and if I’m honest, I like not having to worry about food until noon when I’m ready for a break in the workday.
I find that my desire for that quick hit of pleasure is still overpowering my deeper intention to self nourish in a way that is congruent with my intention to prepare my body for pregnancy. And so I find myself already navigating the terrain of mothering, self-mothering that is.
Whether we’re aspiring mothers, mothers, or happily childless women, we all contain the archetype of the Mother within. And to really embody our wholeness as women, it’s important to cultivate this energy and presence.
And so, over the past few weeks, I’ve found myself gently exploring how I can self-mother with more compassion, love, and care. And I’ve been living in the question, “How can I honor, embrace and embody the Mother archetype in order to more effectively care for myself as I extend nurturing and loving presence to the world around me?”
If you’ve struggled to follow through on loving self-care practices, or you find yourself neglecting your wants and needs, directing your attention outside of yourself to the needs of those around you or to the items on your to-do list, then you may notice, as I did, that you are treating your inner child in ways in which you would never treat an innocent and impressionable child in the world.
If you’d like to cultivate the skill of self-mothering in order to be more loving with yourself and others or you’re currently preparing your mind and body for motherhood, here are 5 simple practices to begin with...
Reflect on your relationship with food, your body, and self care. Do you tend to neglect yourself or override regular meal times in order to tend to the needs of those around you or tick off items on your to-do list? Do you partake in self care practices from a place of deep self love or from a fearful place of trying to perfect, control, or improve yourself? What are the daily or weekly practices that are most loving and supportive of your holistic wellbeing: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Or do you over-nourish as a way to keep yourself small and hold yourself back from the deeper desires you feel for your life?
Allow yourself to accept the nurturance of Mother Earth. Spend time replenishing your energy with time in nature, remembering that you are of this earth, not on it. You are guided and held by the rhythms, sustenance and wisdom of the earth, and you’re affected by the seasons just like the trees outside. How can you trust and flow with the natural rhythms rather than fighting and resisting them?
Practice being fully present. Slow down and take the time to tend to your emotions, your body, your spaces, your work, your money, and your relationships with reverence and care.
Extend kindness and compassion to the younger parts of yourself that feel afraid, rebellious, shameful, or critical. How can you make space for these parts to be heard and seen? How can you honor all the parts of yourself with kindness and generosity? How can you embody a loving and nurturing presence with yourself and others?
Create a spiral of community and support. The Mother Archetype is not just about extending loving care and nurturance to ourselves and those around us. It’s also about fully surrendering to receive support, love and care from others. Are you in touch with your wants and needs and do you know how to ask for what you want and need from others?
Embody your softness with self and others. How can you be more gentle with yourself? How can you let yourself soften?
As we cultivate this ability to self nurture from a place of love and compassion, we show up to our leadership with the same energy. And we are able to give of our overflow, not of our sustenance.
As we wrap up I want to remind you that unconditional love is not something you need to search or strive for. It is your true nature.
The buddha said “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserves your love and affection.”
With all my love!
P.S. If you struggle with nurturing yourself in a way that would truly give you access to your power and potential, then I’d love to support you in private coaching sessions. You can learn more and schedule a free discovery call here.