Do you feel a chronic sense of needing something out there to be ok? A new diet, more food, wine or coffee, a new self-improvement book or program, or maybe even approval and achievement? Do you feel a perpetual sense of dissatisfaction and “not yet being there”? Of postponing your life until you feel like you’ve got the body, the weight, the success you desire?
Trust me, I get it. When I was in the middle of a struggle with compulsive overeating, depression, fatigue and anxiety years ago, I spent my life on a tireless quest to "find the fix."
But the more I inundated myself with more food, more information, dietary theories, and countless books on personal development and health, the more confused and disconnected I became from my own inner wisdom. I had abandoned my body and heart in search of the fix out there. And, all the while, I was literally waiting to live until I felt like I had my health and weight issues under control: waiting to meet a partner, to wear that sexy new dress, to finally pursue my life’s work…I felt like...A hungry ghost...
The Realm of Hungry Ghosts, in Buddhism, refers to the aspect of human experience that is perpetually seeking something outside of the self to fill an emptiness that is sensed within. This realm is inhabited by creatures depicted with scrawny necks, small mouths, and large bloated but empty bellies. This is the realm of addiction. In this state of being, we turn to false substitutes - quick hits of pleasure or relief - that ultimately leave us in even more pain. We may find our fix in many different false refuges - overeating, coffee, alcohol, drugs, sex, seeking approval, achievement, overworking, numbing ourselves with TV, and surfing social media.Read More
I’m currently in a season of my life where I’m entertaining the idea of motherhood. Having worked with many women around feminine hormonal balance and fertility, I know the importance for mama and baby around consciously preparing the body and mind to better conceive and carry a healthy baby to term. As a trained Nutrition Therapist I nourish my body well, and yet, with this new chapter, I realize there are some small changes that I could make to further support my body.
With busy creative days, I often find myself subsisting on bulletproof coffee throughout the morning hours. And while I know I’m not alone in this trendy practice, I also know it’s not exactly ideal for creating an optimal inner ecosystem for balanced hormones. The truth is, even though I know this practice leaves me feeling ungrounded and anxious at times, it still hasn’t been particularly easy for me to shift. I find that creamy coffee so delicious in the morning, and if I’m honest, I like not having to worry about food until noon when I’m ready for a break in the workday.
I find that my desire for that quick hit of pleasure is still overpowering my deeper intention to self nourish in a way that is congruent with my intention to prepare my body for pregnancy. And so I find myself already navigating the terrain of mothering, self-mothering that is.
Whether we’re aspiring mothers, mothers, or happily childless women, we all contain the archetype of the Mother within. And to really embody our wholeness as women, it’s important to cultivate this energy and presence.Read More
What is your reason for being?
Ikigai (生き甲斐,) is a Japanese term for "a reason for being." Ikigai is your calling, it’s the source of your value, the thing you live for, and the reason you get up in the morning. It’s a deeper pull towards a way of being and serving that is fully aligned with your beliefs and values and reflective of your soul.
When you find yourself in a state of ease, flow, and grace - you are feeling ikigai.
And when you are fully rooted in, devoted to, and in service of this deeper calling, you tap into a deep sense of fulfillment and meaning.Read More
One of the most common obstacles I’ve been seeing with highly intelligent and ambitious women is a feeling of overwhelm.
“I’ve just got too much going on.”
“I don’t know what to focus on.”
“Where do I even begin?? There’s just too much to do!”
“I don’t have space for that in my life right now, I’ve got enough on my plate already.”
And sister, let me tell you, I am no stranger to this place of overwhelm, swirling energy, and mental chaos. But over the years, I’ve gotten much more skilled at finding my way back to center with more ease, and I’d love to share the wisdom that has come from those moments.Read More
As a young girl, I was untamed, wild and free. Growing up in Alaska, I was always more comfortable and at home in the woods and mountains than I was in the city. You simply couldn’t take the wild woman out of me. I’d lift my dress up, squat, and pee on the trees in malls, I’d strip off my clothes and roll happily in the rain water that had collected in the ditch, I’d swing from trees, howl at the top of my lungs, and make potions in the woods from mud, mushed berries, twigs, and pine needles. And I was endlessly creative, always writing poetry, sketching, and escaping to imaginary worlds I had dreamed up in my mind.
When I started my business I could feel this unbridled creativity, unquenchable passion, and a deep desire to express my truth without reservation. And Life responded with a steady flow of clients, opportunities for connection and collaboration, and an inner sense of freedom and fulfillment that I’d never experienced before.
But somewhere along the way, I lost myself in all of the complex business strategies, the overwhelming lists of to-do’s and the incessant shoulding, striving, pushing and forcing my way to success. The more I tried to figure it all out from my head, the more I tried to strategize my way to success, the more I tried to get it all right and do it all the way I thought I “should” be doing it, the more the creative aliveness, unbridled joy, and passion that started it all dried up in my business.Read More
Have you ever wondered why your attempts to heal your burnout or create more energy and inner balance are not working? You’re not alone. Many ambitious, purpose-driven women have a deep desire to serve and be on-purpose in their life but they’re postponing their dreams because of burn out, depletion, and fatigue.
Many clients come to me in this very predicament. They’ve put their lives on hold and have taken to their cozy beds with epic Netflix binges and social media scrolling to pass the time. Only problem is … they’re creating the wrong medicine and in the process, they’re driving themselves deeper into burnout with mental and electronic stimulation.
Because, let’s be honest, in this day in age we’re not burning ourselves out with too much physical exertion. More often than not, we’re depleted because of mental exhaustion - overworking + overdoing, information inundation, ungrounded multitasking, and electronic stimulation. And physical exercise is actually therapeutic in these situations as it provides an outlet for mental overexertion.Read More
I remember when I was first beginning my healing business back in 2012, and I mentioned to my acupuncturist and mentor that I felt like a fraud starting my own business because I still didn’t have all of my own health issues figured out. Her reply was that I’d come so far in my own healing journey and had so much wisdom to share, that perhaps stepping into my role as a leader was the very next piece that was critical to my own personal healing.
She couldn’t have been more right. When we resist the call to step into the next phase of our soul’s evolution, we often experience a heightened inner experience of anxiety, dis-ease, symptom, and unwanted behavior. It’s in these moments that we must listen to the call and dive two feet in to the work where our soul’s journey meets our soul’s calling.
I once heard Hiro Boga, say, “There is a stage at which the work becomes your teacher. The work helps you grow into the person who can do the work and the work helps you grow into the person who can evolve with the evolving work.” In a world in which we are often told we need to be “there” before we can step into the role of teacher, leader, and healer, I found this to be such a beautiful distinction.Read More
If you’re anything like the rest of the women I work with you want to feel radiant, sexy and confident in your body AND experience a life of freedom, ease, and full self expression. You know nourishing your body is an important part of all of that, and yet you don’t quite know how to find that middle way between doing everything right and …. throwing it all to the wind.
If you’re not waking up early, moving through your morning ritual, nourishing your body with clean, wholesome foods, and showing up fully for your to-do list, then you're abandoning your body, checking out of the here and now, and recklessly burning it all to the ground. Consistent action gets thrown out the window. You hide. You become dim and small energetically, and you put your big dreams and intentions on hold. Until enough is enough and you go back to the drawing board yet again. New intention, fresh start, same old place you've been a million times before.
The key to finally breaking out of black and white, all or nothing thinking in order to create sustainable momentum and consistent visibility?
RELAXATION, PRESENCE + INNER CONNECTION.Read More
You know you need a vision, right? But right now you just feel confused and lacking the clarity to move forward. Even the next baby step feels uncertain, and you’re left either stuck in inaction or spinning your wheels in aimless action.
The majority of systems for transformation begin with getting clear on your vision for your body, for your life, for your business, for your relationship, or for whatever area you are trying to manifest in. And then from that vision, we create a clear intention.
Unfortunately, too many of us are trying to create a vision from the mind, rather than generating a vision from feeling into the desires and yearnings in our body. And we keep bumping into the limitations of the mind- stuck in a small box of our own making.
When we create a vision from the mind, it’s often influenced by external ideas of what we shouldbe doing, what would look good, or what seems logical. And often when we create from this place, we may ultimately end up realizing that we aren’t actually aligned with that which we have created. We end up feeling disappointed, unfulfilled, lost, and exhausted. When we haven’t dropped into the body and surrendered to being first, then our goals and intentions tend to come from a place of needing to achieve in order to prove our worthiness to both ourselves and others.Read More
There are so many invisible and unseen and subtle factors that have an undeniable influence on our ability to attract success and abundance with ease.
One pattern that I see time and time again, is when myself and my clients take the time and space to truly nourish and replenish themselves, they experience business breakthroughs without the burnout, incessant striving, and push and force.
WHY IS THIS?
I’ve identified 6 invisible factors that powerfully shape our ability to manifest – all profoundly impacted by self-care and nourishment
1) Connection – when we aren’t deeply connected with self, it’s impossible to create deep connections with others. And a successful heart-centered business requires this all-important aspect of connection. When we abandon the seat of self, caught up in the endless dramas and activity of the monkey mind, we block our ability to create deep, meaningful connection with others. When we take the time and space to nourish, fill up, and connect with self, our business naturally becomes an expression of generosity, love and fullness. And that makes everyone feel good.Read More
Before creating an intention and a plan to bring it into fruition, it's important to slow down, drop in, feel into desire, and create space for your intentions. It’s important that we honor all of the seasons of our creative process and respect the pauses as much as the bursts of momentum and action. If you’ve downloaded my 90-Day Success Blueprint (which I highly recommend), you may want to spend time lingering over the first three steps instead of launching into action - reestablishing a connection with the body and heart, feeling into desire and establishing right aim and clear intent from this place of deep knowing and receptivity. And finally, take the time to clear and create space for the intentions you’re calling in!Read More
What an honor it was to have this conversation with Reba Linker. I hope you enjoy listening as much as I enjoyed connecting with this incredibly humble and loving being!Read More
For many years, I related to my body, my business, and my life like a controlling tyrant. I was always pushing myself intensely and without compassion. I was driven by an insatiable quest for perfection, and in the process, I only ended up feeling more and more inadequate, and more and more exhausted. Eventually I burnt out. And then I saw what it was like to live on the other side of the spectrum. Ruled by emotional states, always searching for the easiest, safest, and most comfortable route. Neither experience was empowering, and the feeling of freedom and flow continued to elude me. I wasn’t driven by vision in either experience but by fear.
So, naturally, I’m endlessly passionate about helping other women find this sweet spot where intention and embodiment meet. And a crucial part of that awakening is learning how to start listening to the body without being controlled by the emotional experience.
Learning to manage emotions and thoughts is a requirement for personal and spiritual evolution.Read More
A few weeks ago I headed west to celebrate my brothers marriage. It was a magical weekend, immersed in the mountains of Montana with family and friends all alive with love and joy. I felt nourished on a level that I haven’t in many, many years. I felt a sense of belonging and rootedness again in the company of my mom and brothers in the Montana Sunshine. And I felt my Dad alive and present in the mountain breeze, in the laughter, and in the loving words and big tears of gratitude shared in his memory.
Since returning back to the South, I’ve felt like I’m desperately trying to find my way back home in the darkness. At first I threw myself into work, catching up on everything that I had fallen behind on while I was away. After too many late nights, I came down with the flu spending the last 7 days lying horizontal. Each day I was sick with the flu, I would wake with the best of intentions, I’d get on my yoga mat, I’d identify what needed to be done, and then… nausea and immense fatigue would get the best of me. I feel my physical energy returning, but this mental haze hangs heavy. From this state of fatigue and haziness, I kept identifying with a story in my head about being "stuck.” But the truth was, I wasn’t actually stuck, I just wasn’t allowing myself to take the pause, surrender, and rest. And from this place moving into action was challenging because my body still needed the rest I wasn’t allowing for.
Lots of times we language our experience in terms of stuckness, but what I’ve come to see is that many times there is more of a dance of surrender and agency. Stuckness seems to result when we are resisting both the times of surrender and the times of action. And it’s the resistance that creates so much pain, struggle and suffering. It’s the judgment and the dissonance between how we believe things should be and how they actually are.Read More
Today, I began my day bright and early with a brisk walk to my neighborhood yoga studio to begin the day with a little heart and hip opening. We began the yoga class by setting an intention. The teacher spoke about the vibration that we are creating in our lives and how important it is to be mindful about what and who we surround ourselves with. I set my intention to focus my experience on the immense love, gratitude, abundance, and bliss that is available to me. In order to fill my life with these positive vibrations, I would need to kick fear to the curb, choosing higher vibration thoughts instead. I closed my eyes, brought my hands to hearts center and placed the seed of intention between my palms.
I gently opened my eyes gazing at my mat, and there between my two feet was a SPIDER. EEK! Truth be told, I’m not very zen in my relationship with spiders and at home might consider taking a shoe to it, but here, in this space that practices the yogic principle of Ahimsa, or nonviolence, I could do no such thing. So I watched it and laughed at the irony of the situation. The universe has a hilarious sense of humor when we pay attention. Here was the universe, “Saying, you think you’re ready to cast fear aside and choose love and peace instead? Show me.”Read More
Sometimes, we go a month, or two or three where literally anything goes in the realms of self care because we are pouring all of our energy into a realm of our life that we deem more important at that given time: work, family, creativity, etc. We forget that self care actually is the fuel and foundation for literally every other area of our life.
It’s during these times where we get to experience the dis-ease that results when we abandon self care – the burnout, the depletion, the fatigue, the creative blocks. We come to truly cherish and crave self care for the way it nourishes our soul so that we can show up strong, creative, and loving. Things like meditation and yoga feel less like tedious to-do’s and more like a gift, a luxury. AND, then we get to course correct. To come into congruency and alignment with our integrity. Wipe the slate clean and recommit to a path that honors our Truth, values, and intentions.Read More
Several years ago I had the opportunity to take a year and travel around South America. While living there, I was deeply drawn to the summits and rough terrain of the Andes. I sought out mountaineering trips in Patagonia and then, upon traveling north, set out to summit Aconcagua, one of the Seven Summits of the world. I had chosen a trip that traversed the Guanacos Valley route, a lesser-travelled route to the summit. Unlike the normal route, it was relatively untouched and much longer, taking about 19 days.
Reaching to 22,837 ft, this mountain was a sure to teach me a lesson or two on the art of perseverance, mental fortitude, and emotional endurance. What I didn’t realize was that it would also teach me the art of surrendering to the journey.
Our highest camp was at 19,000 feet. The air grew thin and breathing became a struggle. Sleep was scarce with violent winds and disrupted breathing patterns due to a lack of oxygen. At that altitude, each step is slow, methodical, and rhythmic. Each foot placement is carefully chosen so as not to send scree and rubble falling back onto the person behind you.Read More